Telling a guy off or completely ceasing communication?
Someone recently asked me this and because I am
just supposed to know these things, I thought I would ask the fount of all wisdom:
Obviously, everyone but me.
You know, a guy is interested, you don't like him and he isn't getting the hints. You try to be a little more obvious, but it has reached a breaking point, so, which is worse? The telling him off? The dropping off the face of the earth act?
Now, when I say Tell Him Off. I mean it. Like ripping into him and listing every single thing that irritates you. You call too much. You whine. You act as if I am your mother/girlfriend/therapist.You call him a chavanist/pig/ass. You basically break up with him without ever having gone out with him.
As for the ceasing communication, not just the purposefully missed calls and carefully timed voicemails in return, but a complete silence. No emails. No phone calls. No texts. No IM's. The denial that you ever existed. The proverbial Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind treatment.
So. Share. Please. I would like to be able to add this scrap of knowledge to my ever-expanding portfolio.
You know, I'm currently in the same sitatuon but I can't do either of those options.
A) Dropping off the face of the planet would fail, since he is in my lectures.
B) Telling him off would fail because I have to work with this guy, so I may as well keep the peace for my own benefit.
I suppose it would depend on how clueless he was, what situation you were in and how much longer you could tolerate his attempts to contact you when you play the "extinct" card. Plus, sometimes yelling can be fun (and funny for those watching).
uh-huh. if it's someone you have to see every day, neither really works too well. . .
i'm a nice enough person that for his sake i turned myself into a see-saw. he decided i was too confusing and high maintenance for him and went back to the girlfriend he dumped.